Feeling like you're the one that doesn't fit in?

While everyone else seems to be part of the group?

In the last weeks I have been talking about creating a womens circle and what struck me the most is how many women feel like they don’t belong in a specific group. Because they feel different than the rest of the group.

I know this feeling, I have felt it so many times. But time and time again I realised it was my ego or my lack of self-worth that put me in the spot of the outsider. Because the truth was that I am one of them. And they were all fighting the same uncomfortable feelings I had felt by stepping into this group.

No don’t get me wrong, there are enough times when you are in a group that doesn’t resonate with you anymore. When you have stepped into your wilder, more intuitive side, a lot of people who didn’t make that move will just not understand you. That is a fact. But I am talking about groups of women gathering to step into their wise femininity even more. And who are ready to share this journey with other women.

We all long for connection

They long for the same thing as you do, connection, acknowledgement, respect, love, being seen, being heard. And they all have the same fears, of being different, strange, not smart enough, not conscious enough.

But women gather for a reason. Because we need each other. And even though we feel we don’t belong, it is up to us to see that we do. That we face similar issues in life and that we can learn so much if we gather and share.

So the next time when you feel you don’t belong, change the script and tell yourself:

“Yes I belong here. These are my women. And even though I find it scary to show my whole self to them with all these new things I am discovering about myself, I will open up and trust that I am safe and held by their love.”

Can we feel safe together?

I get tears in my eyes realising how difficult it is for women to truly feel safe with each other. But one thing I know for sure: when you open up, they will open up, when you smile, they will smile, when you cry, they will cry with you. Or they will hold you, because your worth being held.

You don’t have to be the best of friends with all women in one group, but when there is safety and support, you are held in a way you haven’t known before.

Let’s thrive together

Women have learned to distrust each other, and it is not necessary. We need each other to thrive in this life, we have to step up for each other. Because it is a rocky ride we’re on… We haven’t done this for a very long time in history now, this stepping up to be our true selves, showing these parts to the world and truly connect on a deep level, where all emotions that lay dormant will come alive.

Let’s enjoy the ride together and make space for groups of women to come together and truly share.

Lots of love, Irene

With the Untamed Woman I create a space for truthful conversations, about life, about walking your own path, about being vulnerable and making mistakes. It is a place for women who are willing to share their true stories and listen to each other. So feel welcome to join the conversation by reacting in the comments.