Why we need others to return to the truth of who we are
About letting go of the outcome and surrendering to life
As I am preparing the session for my weekly writing group I turn to my goddess power oracle card deck and find the energy of Shakti to guide us today. And I realise how much the energy of Shakti was with me all week.
We are moving to a very powerful new moon this Sunday. A new moon that makes you question almost everything in your life. But also a new moon that helps you to dive deeper into the things you truly desire and start or continue creative projects that work for you.
Controling or creating
This week I was trying to control things. And completely letting go of all that served me in the last months. Which is strange because the goddess that is traveling with me this month is Rhea, goddess of flow. It was my intention to flow with it all, but this week it definitely didn’t work. I was trying to hold on to certain outcomes and they just didn’t come. They only arrived when I decided to let go.
After 3 days of struggling and holding on to what didn’t work I had planned to take a day off. After two months of travelling my partner finally returned and all I wanted (and needed as it turned out) was to surrender to his loving embrace.
Shakti Energy from the card deck by Colette Baron-Reid
“Sometimes people and situations come into your life as the kind of change agents that turn your life upside down. What you thought was real and expected is challenged by someone elses perspective of behavior, which you have no control over. This can be painful and deeply confusing, but the creator goddess Shakti wants to offer you her guidance. Can you see how everything that is off-balance is serving you now, helping to open old wounds so they can finally heal? You know you are seeking this change, this magical metamorphosis for a better life for you and your loved ones.
Right now your alignment task is to love that part of yourself that sabotages your efforts to move forward. Love the insecure you, the one that is jealous, the one that sees “not enough” when the world is truly full of potential. Life loves you. The feminine aspect of the universe, the Great Goddess herself, all your angels , and your guides and helpers remind you that you came here as a spiritual being learning to co-create the world anew.”
Transfor your old self into a new one
When you start living a life aligned with the stars, the moon, your higher Self and the universe, you need to transform a lot of things in your life. And that isn’t always easy. It asks you to trust where you used to control, it asks you to surrender and lean back instead of always reacting and forcing yourself, it asks you to move with the cycles of the moon and your feminine cycle instead of always pushing through. It asks you to let go of the world you know and step into something you cannot explain but what feels extremely good.
What I found interesting in the last week is that when I tried to control things, nothing moved. There was no inspiration, no energy, no joy. I slept terribly and was constantly tired and uptight. But when I took a step back from it all, suddenly things started moving again.
Feeling spacious and alive
This Friday morning I feel spacious, connected and loved. I feel inspiration even though I am still a bit tired. I feel abundant, and full of love. This feeling connects to something I have on my mind for a very long time and is connected to living alone as a woman and what you actually need to feel alive, inspired and strong.
What I see around me in the women who are following the same path as I do, is a struggle to have financial stability in their lives. And without this stability there is the issue that you feel unaligned and unworthy. As I have been moving around for the last year, trying to find a place to come home to, I couldn’t always focus on creating this financial stability.
Moving around and settling down takes time and costs energy. It also gives energy, but it varies and is never stable. Which is part of being a woman. Your energy is never the same. Which is completely different for men. And while we have been thought in the last decades to be like men, it is time to admit that we are not. It is great that women have the freedom to do what they want, but we pushed it a little to far in my opinion.
Welcoming masculine energy
What we do need is masculine energy in our lives. Just like we need the support of women to lift each other up. We need both and we are definitely not created to be alone as much as we are in these days now. But there is a tendency for women to think there is an important need to be alone. Moving through the challenges of life we step away from community. We hide away while being in the process of recreating who we truly are. And even though it is true that you need space for that, you need to be in community as well.
We need sharing circles with other women and girls, we need the stability of the masculine energy (whether it is in the form of a relationship with a partner or whether you have the support of your father, brother or friends). We cannot go without.
And we need to find the masculine energy in ourselves, so we can be balanced and stronger in who we truly are.
Recreate the system we live in
Therefore we need to recreate the system we live in. We need to see that moving through this, we shouldn’t be struggling on our own. We need to find people who understand us. I know they are here, because even though I have felt alone in the past, everywhere I look now, I see women standing up and connect to their true and honest selves. And when we connect magic happens.
We need stories to share, we need to show our struggles and our wins. We need to celebrate each other and let go of judgements and comparison. We are our unique selves and we are the same in a lot of ways. We are not competitors in trying to create the most beautiful lives. We need each other to create our most beautiful life.
We need each other
So as I woke up in the arms of my partner this morning I felt the energy coming back in my system. Knowing that I am deeply loved and supported by his energy ànd finally realising how powerful I am from deep within, because I give a lot to him as well. It is not a oneway street.
It is the same powerful energy I feel when hosting or joining a women’s circle. When sharing what is going on in my life, I feel the support of the women who can connect to what I share.
You are worthy
‘You should never think that you are not enough,’ my partner told me before we stepped out of bed and moved into our day. And I want you to know that this is true for you as well. You are worthy of love, abundance and partnership. You are unique and you belong. Don’t ever think you are not. Even when there are parts of your life that aren’t flowing in the way you thought they should flow.
So to wrap this up. I want to invite you to co-create a world full of wonder, love and connection. Because that is what life is all about. As I feel this message needs to be heard, I am forever grateful when you share this message with at least one woman who needs to read this right now.
Wishing you an extremely lovely and connected day.
Irene