You are more powerful than you think
The connection between jealousy, abundance and stepping into your own power
Your mind is an interesting thing. It can tell you all kinds of funny tales that you might end up believing. These stories can come from past experiences or things people have told you (maybe only once or twice in your life). Mainly these thoughts are not the truth for you.
One of the things a lot of people believe (and yes, I am one of them too) is the voice that is telling them ‘you are not good enough (yet)’. So we try to get better by getting more knowledge, do another training, or hire another coach. In the end we keep postponing what we love to bring in to the world.
Truth be told, you will never be good enough in your own perfectionism. Other people can only see you, when you start bringing your light into the world.
You’re more powerful than you think you are
As I was talking to my parents on the phone about the fears I had of stepping into a new focus in my business, they both told me I am much stronger than I think I am. I had heard that before this summer, my love had told me this several times in the moments I was doubting myself. I always think I am not a very strong person, because almost everything I do scares the hell out of me. And I’m not alone in this perspective, I read in this Substack article where
shares his relationship with fear with .I challenge myself constantly by doing new things, even though they scare me. Living abroad, travelling alone, having all different kinds of jobs, starting and ending business, going on solo sailing trips, I do it. But before I do them there is always this fear of taking the first step.
Looking back, all the steps look relatively easy, but it wasn’t so easy in the moment I had to do it. I have cried, screamed and almost shitted in my pants because of the fear I felt. But I have never let the fear hold me back of taking the road I thought I needed to take.
Except in one area of my life…
My business, or shall I say the one thing I truly believe in…
The people who follow me for a long time, know that I have always been sharing my voice. I share stories from my heart and I try to inspire people to create a life they love to live, by showing what is possible and what you can encounter along the way (all the miracles and the obstacles).
But as I have gotten hold of the idea that I am not good enough, I always saw other entrepreneurs who were more eloquent in their writing, funnier in their video’s and stronger in sharing their vision.
So I decided success in this area was not for me.
I decided to live my life without fulfilling my desire of standing on a stage in a theatre with at least 500 people, of selling more books than I can think of and not sharing my story in a column in a magazine. I have told myself over and over again that I could easily live without. But these desires come back to me every now and then. You could question if it is just a longing to be seen, but it is more than that. It is a vision I already have for a very long time and still it has not manifested like all the other visions I have had.
Should I really let them go? I asked myself. Or was I telling myself to let them, because I was scared to really step up?
And then the answer came… In the form of jealousy…
As I saw a post on social media last week of one of my favorite writers I felt so envious of what she had created in her life. Her books sell really well, she has a publisher, writes for all kinds of magazines and is in my view a successful writer. She also regularly shares her stories on her fantastic husband and their marriage.
There was a lot to be envious about…
I know social media can do this to me, so I knew I had to face what was right in front of me. I decided to ask YouTube for help and I found some rather interesting points of view on the subject.
Jealousy is a force for growth
In one of the videos I watched Mel Robbins shares her view on jealousy. She states that it is a force for growth, but it also connects to a lack of abundance. When you look at someone and feel jealous and think that you can’t reach the same, your main idea is that there is not enough in the world for both of you to be successful.
As I looked at the situation, I realised that this was indeed the case. And according to Mel Robbins there is enough for both of us (and I know there is, if you look at life from a place of abundance). If I want I can be just as successful as she is. The question always is, do I want to do the work that is necessary to get somewhere?
You can see jealousy as an opportunity to grow. You can use the feeling as an inspiration to create what you want. Because the thing you are jealous about can be the thing you desire the most. When you are able to feel this, it is time to discover what is needed to get there. It is all about believing in yourself and the opportunities that life has to offer.
Are there people in you life you are jealous of and what does it do to you? Can you see it as a force for growth or is it blocking you in moving forward? I love to hear from you.